Hi, Rich (a.k.a. Mr Sunshine) here. I asked Polly if I could write a guest post as a follow up to her excellent pregnancy posts and her response was surprisingly an emphatic “YES!”, followed by a rather suspicious “….what are you going to write about??”. My answer was brief and went thus: “Basically, I’m shitting myself at the prospect of being a new father. Maybe if I write down my thoughts, I can make sense of it all” (spoiler for those who can’t be bothered to read to the end...I can’t).
It’s been an incredible 6 months, from our wedding to the honeymoon and
finally the news that Polly was pregnant. These 6 months have been the
happiest of my life and up to now I have kind of lived in a state of
ignorant bliss. However, in the last few weeks the prospect that I will
be a new father has come into sharp focus. I’ve read that this stage
slowly creeps up on all expectant fathers, perfectly articulated in one
book as “a stage when the future comes too quickly and the present
always feels like the past” (granted, that phrase does sound
Like many soon-to-be-dads, I have been asking myself the following
questions: Will I be a good dad? Am I mentally ready for this? Will I be
able to change a nappy on my own? How long will it take before I stop
holding the baby like a bomb? And most importantly, will I still have
the time to stick to my strict hair-coiffeuring regimen???
Pertinent questions I’m sure you’ll agree readers.
It’s comforting to know I’m not alone though in this sudden rush of
self-doubt. If you type in “scared of being a father” into Google, you
will get nearly 52,000,000 results. In one article I found, one father’s
biggest worry is that he might “bring home the wrong baby from
daycare”. I mean, wow. Even I can’t be that bad (please no one bookmark
What I’ve learnt so far about being a new father is that the only way
to deal with all this upcoming uncertainty is to simply embrace it, even
if I do not fully understand it. I’m finally coming round to accepting
the chaos…I’m just not sure whether it will accept me!