Guest Post: Mr Sunshine on Becoming a First Time Dad

Hi, Rich (a.k.a. Mr Sunshine) here. I asked Polly if I could write a guest post as a follow
up to her excellent pregnancy posts and her response was surprisingly an
emphatic “YES!”, followed by a rather suspicious “….what are you going
to write about??”. My answer was brief and went thus: “Basically, I’m
shitting myself at the prospect of being a new father. Maybe if I write
down my thoughts, I can make sense of it all” (spoiler for those who
can’t be bothered to read to the end…I can’t).

               Mr S getting some practice in with our friends Sarah and Sam’s baby Sophie over Christmas

It’s been an incredible 6 months, from our wedding to the honeymoon and
finally the news that Polly was pregnant. These 6 months have been the
happiest of my life and up to now I have kind of lived in a state of
ignorant bliss. However, in the last few weeks the prospect that I will
be a new father has come into sharp focus. I’ve read that this stage
slowly creeps up on all expectant fathers, perfectly articulated in one
book as “a stage when the future comes too quickly and the present
always feels like the past” (granted, that phrase does sound
sensationally dramatic!)

Like many soon-to-be-dads, I have been asking myself the following
questions: Will I be a good dad? Am I mentally ready for this? Will I be
able to change a nappy on my own? How long will it take before I stop
holding the baby like a bomb? And most importantly, will I still have
the time to stick to my strict hair-coiffeuring regimen???

Pertinent questions I’m sure you’ll agree readers.

It’s comforting to know I’m not alone though in this sudden rush of
self-doubt. If you type in “scared of being a father” into Google, you
will get nearly 52,000,000 results. In one article I found, one father’s
biggest worry is that he might “bring home the wrong baby from
daycare”. I mean, wow. Even I can’t be that bad (please no one bookmark
this though!).

What I’ve learnt so far about being a new father is that the only way
to deal with all this upcoming uncertainty is to simply embrace it, even
if I do not fully understand it. I’m finally coming round to accepting
the chaos…I’m just not sure whether it will accept me!

13 Comments

  1. January 18, 2016 / 5:22 pm

    I sure you will be a natural, Rich 🙂

    • January 20, 2016 / 9:26 am

      I agree Angie, he's got nothing to worry about 🙂 There will definitely be chaos though…

      Polly xx

  2. January 18, 2016 / 5:57 pm

    Aww such a lovely honest post! I reckon there's probably a lot of expectant mums who can relate as well as Dads to this!

    • January 20, 2016 / 9:26 am

      Yes!! Me included!! Having a baby is simultaneously the most exciting and most daunting thing anyone can do I think.

      Polly xx

  3. January 18, 2016 / 8:47 pm

    You're a natural writer Rich, and you'll be just as natural a Dad. Not long to go now!

  4. Rich
    January 18, 2016 / 9:22 pm

    Thank you ladies 🙂

  5. January 18, 2016 / 10:00 pm

    Sticking to the strict hair-coiffuring regimen is the most important part. Returning home from daycare with the wrong baby is no biggy, as at least you will have brought back a baby that can then be bartered in exchange for the correct baby. These things have a way of sorting themselves out. The hair, however, that weight sits squarely on your shoulders alone. (Literally, even) XD

    • January 20, 2016 / 9:28 am

      Hahaha, thanks Frankie for putting it all into perspective.

      Polly xx

    • January 20, 2016 / 9:28 am

      Aww, that's a lovely way to look at it! 🙂

      Polly xx

  6. January 19, 2016 / 10:47 pm

    You will be flinging that baby around to delighted squeals (from said bubba, perhaps not Polly) before you know it!

    • January 20, 2016 / 9:28 am

      No, mine will just be squeals.

      Polly xx

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